Getting Over a Breakup
A breakup can feel like the end of the world. Suffering from unrequited love can be one of the worst feelings possible, and when you're in the thick of it, it feels like it'll never end. But it will—you just have to move through the pain first. Luckily there are some techniques that can help lessen the pain or help you move through it faster. Read on for some ideas.
Wallow
Call your best friend, buy all the ice cream, rent all the movies that make you cry, and take to your bed. It's okay to be sad, and important to fully feel your emotions. But set a limit! Don't stay in your bed eating ice cream for more than a day or two. After that, it's time to get out because wallowing too much will only make you feel worse.
Get Negative
It won't help you to stare at pictures of good times you spend with your ex. Instead, focus on the worst part of his or her personality. Maybe she didn't get along with your sister. Maybe he never held the door open for you. Maybe your ex left socks on the floor, sang out of tune and never used a coaster. Your ex was so annoying! Good riddance.
Distract
Engage in a few of your favorite activities. Hit a yoga class. Take a walk. Go to the movies. Buy yourself a new book. And it's even better if one of your favorite activities is one you couldn't engage in during your relationship. It'll remind you that there was life before your relationship, and there will be life after. If bad feelings come calling in the middle of the night, it can be a little harder to distract yourself, but it's still possible. Find your favorite show on TV or stream a funny movie. Self help videos are another option. If you find the right ones, self help videos can remind you of how great you are with mantras, encouragement or other types of positivity to get you through the night.
Get Out
Call a group of friends and get back out there. You shouldn't hit the clubs looking for a new relationship just yet. Give yourself plenty of time to mourn your old relationship before moving on to someone new. Going out with your friends should just be a way to have fun, change up your routine, dress up and feel good about yourself.
